The secret to living longer may be your social life | Susan Pinker

The secret to living longer may be your social life | Susan Pinker

Here’s an intriguing fact. In the developed world, everywhere, women live an average
of six to eight years longer than men do. Six to eight years longer. That’s, like, a huge gap. In 2015, the “Lancet” published an article showing that men in rich countries are twice as likely to die as women are at any age. But there is one place in the world where men live as long as women. It’s a remote, mountainous zone, a blue zone, where super longevity is common to both sexes. This is the blue zone in Sardinia, an Italian island in the Mediterranean, between Corsica and Tunisia, where there are six times
as many centenarians as on the Italian mainland, less than 200 miles away. There are 10 times as many centenarians as there are in North America. It’s the only place
where men live as long as women. But why? My curiosity was piqued. I decided to research the science
and the habits of the place, and I started with the genetic profile. I discovered soon enough that genes account for just
25 percent of their longevity. The other 75 percent is lifestyle. So what does it take
to live to 100 or beyond? What are they doing right? What you’re looking at
is an aerial view of Villagrande. It’s a village at the epicenter
of the blue zone where I went to investigate this, and as you can see, architectural beauty
is not its main virtue, density is: tightly spaced houses, interwoven alleys and streets. It means that the villagers’ lives
constantly intersect. And as I walked through the village, I could feel hundreds
of pairs of eyes watching me from behind doorways and curtains, from behind shutters. Because like all ancient villages, Villagrande couldn’t have survived without this structure,
without its walls, without its cathedral, without its village square, because defense and social cohesion
defined its design. Urban priorities changed as we moved
towards the industrial revolution because infectious disease
became the risk of the day. But what about now? Now, social isolation
is the public health risk of our time. Now, a third of the population says they have two or fewer people to lean on. But let’s go to Villagrande
now as a contrast to meet some centenarians. Meet Giuseppe Murinu.
He’s 102, a supercentenarian and a lifelong resident
of the village of Villagrande. He was a gregarious man. He loved to recount stories such as how he lived like a bird from what he could find
on the forest floor during not one but two world wars, how he and his wife,
who also lived past 100, raised six children
in a small, homey kitchen where I interviewed him. Here he is with his sons
Angelo and Domenico, both in their 70s
and looking after their father, and who were quite frankly
very suspicious of me and my daughter who came along with me
on this research trip, because the flip side of social cohesion is a wariness of strangers and outsiders. But Giuseppe, he wasn’t suspicious at all. He was a happy-go-lucky guy, very outgoing with a positive outlook. And I wondered: so is that what it takes
to live to be 100 or beyond, thinking positively? Actually, no. (Laughter) Meet Giovanni Corrias. He’s 101, the grumpiest person I have ever met. (Laughter) And he put a lie to the notion that you have to be positive
to live a long life. And there is evidence for this. When I asked him why he lived so long, he kind of looked at me
under hooded eyelids and he growled, “Nobody has to know my secrets.” (Laughter) But despite being a sourpuss, the niece who lived with him
and looked after him called him “Il Tesoro,” “my treasure.” And she respected him and loved him, and she told me, when I questioned
this obvious loss of her freedom, “You just don’t understand, do you? Looking after this man is a pleasure. It’s a huge privilege for me. This is my heritage.” And indeed, wherever I went
to interview these centenarians, I found a kitchen party. Here’s Giovanni with his two nieces, Maria above him and beside him his great-niece Sara, who came when I was there
to bring fresh fruits and vegetables. And I quickly discovered by being there that in the blue zone, as people age, and indeed across their lifespans, they’re always surrounded
by extended family, by friends, by neighbors, the priest,
the barkeeper, the grocer. People are always there or dropping by. They are never left
to live solitary lives. This is unlike the rest
of the developed world, where as George Burns quipped, “Happiness is having a large,
loving, caring family in another city.” (Laughter) Now, so far we’ve only met men, long-living men, but I met women too, and here you see Zia Teresa. She, at over 100, taught me
how to make the local specialty, which is called culurgiones, which are these large pasta pockets like ravioli about this size, this size, and they’re filled
with high-fat ricotta and mint and drenched in tomato sauce. And she showed me
how to make just the right crimp so they wouldn’t open, and she makes them
with her daughters every Sunday and distributes them
by the dozens to neighbors and friends. And that’s when I discovered
a low-fat, gluten-free diet is not what it takes
to live to 100 in the blue zone. (Applause) Now, these centenarians’ stories
along with the science that underpins them prompted me to ask myself
some questions too, such as, when am I going to die
and how can I put that day off? And as you will see,
the answer is not what we expect. Julianne Holt-Lunstad is a researcher
at Brigham Young University and she addressed this very question in a series of studies of tens of thousands of middle aged people much like this audience here. And she looked at every
aspect of their lifestyle: their diet, their exercise, their marital status, how often they went to the doctor, whether they smoked or drank, etc. She recorded all of this and then she and her colleagues
sat tight and waited for seven years to see who would still be breathing. And of the people left standing, what reduced their chances
of dying the most? That was her question. So let’s now look at her data in summary, going from the least powerful
predictor to the strongest. OK? So clean air, which is great, it doesn’t predict how long you will live. Whether you have your hypertension treated is good. Still not a strong predictor. Whether you’re lean or overweight,
you can stop feeling guilty about this, because it’s only in third place. How much exercise you get is next, still only a moderate predictor. Whether you’ve had a cardiac event
and you’re in rehab and exercising, getting higher now. Whether you’ve had a flu vaccine. Did anybody here know that having a flu vaccine
protects you more than doing exercise? Whether you were drinking and quit, or whether you’re a moderate drinker, whether you don’t smoke,
or if you did, whether you quit, and getting towards the top predictors are two features of your social life. First, your close relationships. These are the people
that you can call on for a loan if you need money suddenly, who will call the doctor
if you’re not feeling well or who will take you to the hospital, or who will sit with you
if you’re having an existential crisis, if you’re in despair. Those people, that little clutch of people are a strong predictor, if you have them,
of how long you’ll live. And then something that surprised me, something that’s called
social integration. This means how much
you interact with people as you move through your day. How many people do you talk to? And these mean both
your weak and your strong bonds, so not just the people
you’re really close to, who mean a lot to you, but, like, do you talk to the guy
who every day makes you your coffee? Do you talk to the postman? Do you talk to the woman who walks
by your house every day with her dog? Do you play bridge or poker,
have a book club? Those interactions
are one of the strongest predictors of how long you’ll live. Now, this leads me to the next question: if we now spend more time online
than on any other activity, including sleeping, we’re now up to 11 hours a day, one hour more than last year, by the way, does it make a difference? Why distinguish
between interacting in person and interacting via social media? Is it the same thing as being there if you’re in contact constantly
with your kids through text, for example? Well, the short answer
to the question is no, it’s not the same thing. Face-to-face contact releases
a whole cascade of neurotransmitters, and like a vaccine,
they protect you now in the present and well into the future. So simply making
eye contact with somebody, shaking hands, giving somebody a high-five is enough to release oxytocin, which increases your level of trust and it lowers your cortisol levels. So it lowers your stress. And dopamine is generated,
which gives us a little high and it kills pain. It’s like a naturally produced morphine. Now, all of this passes
under our conscious radar, which is why we conflate
online activity with the real thing. But we do have evidence now,
fresh evidence, that there is a difference. So let’s look at some of the neuroscience. Elizabeth Redcay, a neuroscientist
at the University of Maryland, tried to map the difference between what goes on in our brains
when we interact in person versus when we’re watching
something that’s static. And what she did was
she compared the brain function of two groups of people, those interacting live with her or with one of her research associates in a dynamic conversation, and she compared that
to the brain activity of people who were watching her talk
about the same subject but in a canned video, like on YouTube. And by the way, if you want to know how she fit two people
in an MRI scanner at the same time, talk to me later. So what’s the difference? This is your brain
on real social interaction. What you’re seeing
is the difference in brain activity between interacting in person
and taking in static content. In orange, you see the brain areas
that are associated with attention, social intelligence — that means anticipating
what somebody else is thinking and feeling and planning — and emotional reward. And these areas become much more engaged when we’re interacting
with a live partner. Now, these richer brain signatures might be why recruiters
from Fortune 500 companies evaluating candidates thought that the candidates were smarter when they heard their voices compared to when they just
read their pitches in a text, for example, or an email or a letter. Now, our voices and body language
convey a rich signal. It shows that we’re thinking, feeling, sentient human beings who are much more than an algorithm. Now, this research by Nicholas Epley at the University of Chicago
Business School is quite amazing because
it tells us a simple thing. If somebody hears your voice, they think you’re smarter. I mean, that’s quite a simple thing. Now, to return to the beginning, why do women live longer than men? And one major reason
is that women are more likely to prioritize and groom
their face-to-face relationships over their lifespans. Fresh evidence shows that these in-person friendships create a biological force field
against disease and decline. And it’s not just true of humans but their primate relations,
our primate relations as well. Anthropologist Joan Silk’s work
shows that female baboons who have a core of female friends show lower levels of stress
via their cortisol levels, they live longer and they have
more surviving offspring. At least three stable relationships. That was the magic number. Think about it. I hope you guys have three. The power of such face-to-face contact is really why there are
the lowest rates of dementia among people who are socially engaged. It’s why women who have breast cancer are four times more likely
to survive their disease than loners are. Why men who’ve had a stroke
who meet regularly to play poker or to have coffee or to play old-timer’s hockey — I’m Canadian, after all — (Laughter) are better protected
by that social contact than they are by medication. Why men who’ve had a stroke
who meet regularly — this is something very
powerful they can do. This face-to-face contact
provides stunning benefits, yet now almost a quarter of the population
says they have no one to talk to. We can do something about this. Like Sardinian villagers, it’s a biological imperative
to know we belong, and not just the women among us. Building in-person interaction
into our cities, into our workplaces, into our agendas bolsters the immune system, sends feel-good hormones
surging through the bloodstream and brain and helps us live longer. I call this building your village, and building it and sustaining it
is a matter of life and death. Thank you. (Applause) Helen Walters: Susan, come back.
I have a question for you. I’m wondering if there’s a middle path. So you talk about the neurotransmitters
connecting when in face-to-face, but what about digital technology? We’ve seen enormous improvements
in digital technology like FaceTime, things like that. Does that work too? I mean, I see my nephew. He plays Minecraft
and he’s yelling at his friends. It seems like he’s connecting pretty well. Is that useful? Is that helpful? Susan Pinker: Some of the data
are just emerging. The data are so fresh
that the digital revolution happened and the health data trailed behind. So we’re just learning, but I would say
there are some improvements that we could make in the technology. For example, the camera on your laptop
is at the top of the screen, so for example, when you’re
looking into the screen, you’re not actually making eye contact. So something as simple
as even just looking into the camera can increase those neurotransmitters, or maybe changing
the position of the camera. So it’s not identical, but I think
we are getting closer with the technology. HW: Great. Thank you so much. SP: Thank you. (Applause)


  1. One of the secret to living longer is not to get poisened from someone.
    This means not the popular ideas of poisens like gluten or other rather harmless food-supplements. This means the spectrum of neuro-active substances. (maybe gluten is neuro-active).

    But neuromanipulation is primary strategie for manipulating consciousness for political reasons.
    That is also, what the implicites objective target of the strategies of Christianity / christian intentions and of course it contains neuro-manipulating of the Humans. In the conception of incarnation – what is an infringement on nature live.
    Theological this process is an homicide on natural grown live/souls with the objective target of incarnation of civilized identity from the past. This is a adversely absorption of natural soul.

    The real holy war.

    But its also estrangement, uprooting, to wring from homeland, killing natural identity, killing spirit…

    In the Name of God!

  2. Her idea is a ridiculous jump to a desired conclusion. "Women live 6 – 8 years longer…" on what study and is that study world wide?

  3. It should certainly be noted that people in blue zones eat a plant based diet. Social life may account for part of their longevity, but the foundation is based on their whole foods, plant -based diets. Dietary factors factors were conveniently omitted and even scoffed at in this speech, which seems dishonest.

  4. It's funny, the numbers of people who upvoted this video, considering her basic position is that, to live a long life you must live in a secluded, suspicious, monocultural society with strong familial links to others. If anyone else had made this suggestion, the TED audience would downvote the crap out of them and describe them as a racist bigot. They'd be right, too, but it just shows that these things can be couched in ways that fly under peoples' collective radars.

  5. It isn't the years in your life that count but the life in your years. A retroactive negative income tax would help, and could be funded by abolishing tax havens. What about our laws which seem to have been created to protect criminals rather than serve the public? I think prohibition of drugs only does the same thing as what happen with alcohol and even blue jeans.

  6. We, men, die earlier because we smoke more and drink more alcohol. 480,000 Americans die each year of smocking related diseases and just read about vodka in Russia.

    Tobacco and vodka are a far more plausible explanation then social life.

  7. I'm introverted , but not shy, {different things} I'm cultivating close , good, long-term friendships and making happy acquaintance with anyone i meet. I want to live to be 140.

  8. And people are trying to further separate us. They spew individualist trash and advocate for privatizing everything

    Let's break down the walls and see each other as equals. Humans are highly social creatures. It's about time we embrace our communal nature

  9. I think the main problem os modern societies is the dissolution of social bonds. Things like feminism and the crisis of spirituality arise when the group is weakened. For me the solution would be a radical reform in which people would be organised in small closed groups and the main political agent would be the group (or maybe the extended family), not the individual.

  10. Where does diet and nutrition fall on that list of predictors of longevity? Body weight, hypertension, and cardiac rehab do not tell the full story on nutrition. All the blue zones are knowing for eating mostly whole, minimally-processed, and nutrient dense foods.

  11. Where does diet and nutrition fall on that list of predictors of longevity? Body weight, hypertension, and cardiac rehab do not tell the full story on nutrition. All the blue zones are knowing for eating mostly whole, minimally-processed, and nutrient dense foods.

  12. Talking with people is often exhausting for me, trying to find things in common, merging opinions, arguing. It's all too tiresome…

  13. 1) she said what percent of genes makes up lifespan, but what about these neurotransmitters she mentions that comes from social interaction?
    2) I ask, because she says stop feeling guilty about being overweight, but then multiple of those predictors – hypertension, cardiac rehab, exercise (duh), and even relationship, booze, etc. are likely to be doing poorly if you are overweight. So how much is it that people who are social happen to be healthier, vs being social IS the cause of a long lifespan?

  14. I'm here after reading Brené Browns Book: Braving the Wilderness. Which really got to me. Now I feel I really need to read the village effect too. I'm so hungry to understand the topic of loneliness deeply. Not out of pure fascination, but out of self-love. I owe it to myself to have a good long life (and to the world ). And after taking in all this, for the first time in a long time, feel motivated to explore my social side for real and implement habits to make it sustainable ( and enjoyable! ) . And this is coming from an introvert.

    Good luck on your journey , and I sure as heck could need a lucky kick in my boot to…!


  15. If you are not where you want to be right now then start making positive affirmations and eliminate the negative ones.

    When we talk about “doing” affirmations, we mean that we make a positive statement about something we want to change in our lives. Too often we say, “I don’t want this in my life,” and we forget to state clearly what we do want. To say, “I don’t want to be sick anymore” does not give the body a clear picture of the health we would like to enjoy. Nor does saying “I hate this job” produce a great new position. To create the new experiences we want, we need to clearly declare our desires.

    Affirmations are like planting seeds in the ground. First they germinate, then they sprout roots, and then they shoot up through the ground. It takes some time to go from a seed to a full-grown plant. And so with affirmations, it takes some time from the first declaration to the final demonstration. So be patient.

  16. It's not necessarily this simple. When I exercise, I become less depressed and far more open and chatty and I don't care so much what people think of me….if I'm depressed I often avoid people. So it could appear that the social activity was causing my improved mood (and therefore, health) and perhaps it does improve it further, but none of these things can be looked at in isolation….they all feed into each other.

  17. Flu vaccine?? Are you joking?? Flu vaccine is now the #1 cause of disease and death. Everyone in their right mind, STAY away from it. Do your research. Also the first 2 reasons can be simply summarized as Staying away from stress.

  18. Mixing up cause and effect. Cause: being not very healthy, effect: being less outgoing, talking to less people. Not the other way around!

  19. Unfortunately the effect size depicted in her graph for exercise is very outdated & misconstrues what is currently understood in 2018 regarding the impact that physical activity has in mitigating the risk of premature death see👇

  20. Ms. Pinker fails to acknowledge some very important research and is addressing a bubble. One part she ignores is the importance of companion animals, proved to increase happiness and longevity. Another part she ignores is concrete medical research that says if your ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) exceed 6, your longevity is likely decreased by 20 years. Her information is correct; but she fails to acknowledge critical factors that play into longevity. It is a very simplistic and fluffy view of longevity. The structure of a life has more importance and impact than the decor, so she is only scratching the surface of what makes for quality and quantity of life. For those who are born without stability, the social relationships of which she speaks are more difficult to attain and maintain. It is like a financial advisory lecture to those who have never really been poor. I'm sure it makes her feel important to think that she is addressing a need where there is no critical problem. It's always easier to help those who don't really need it.

  21. What has not been mentioned is the physical proximation may actually be important .For example the radiation of a human , touch , eye contact , multiple sensory confirmation of the presence all may lead to the result of increased health not currently available with digital connections.

  22. I’m sharing this on Facebook to throw shade at my parents since they get mad when I ask to go out (which is rarely). Because of the lack of social interaction I had when I was in elementary school I had to get past social anxiety and learn how to “talk” to people on my own.

  23. This is one of the most horrible ted talk. She cherry pick a specific skewed study to illustrate her points. You can social all day long, if you are eating animal fat, ice cream and donuts all day, you will get heart attack and die at 50. Vaccines in remote island better than cities? Vaccines work better than exercise? She is totally messed up. I recommend people look up her funding of her research. Something very fishy about her talk.

  24. All you need is a shitload of money.Probably an undergraduate degree in engineering in science or computer s.c.In order to live above poverty.The elites control all the gates.Except Eternal life with Christ.

  25. It is sad this woman did not master her subject enough to present it from knowledge. The reading ruins the presentation. She wrote her script as if she is writing a novel, adding fake drama and nuanced details.
    There is a concept in presenting. You cannot give something away until you make it your own. She has never made these ideas her own. How can she give them away?

  26. Ummm, "How many of you in here knew that a flu vaccine is more important than exercise."
    None of them because you are the only fool on the planet who has ever said such a thing. A flu vaccine has nothing to do with healthy longevity or building immunity, and these people exercise regularly/ natural movement, much much more than the average American, British or Aussie adult.

  27. Makes sense.
    New York, New Jersey, and Maryland are the 3 most densley populated states and are also the 3 states with lowest suicide rate while Alaska, Wyoming, and Montana are the 3 least densely populated and are the same 3 with highest suicide rates. Doesn't have to do with life expectancy at all but there is some correlation, I think.

  28. Humans are social animals. We need to interact with one another in order to be emotionally stable and our mental health has an impact on our overall health.

  29. I thought this talk was a little unsatisfactory and conclusions unjustified. No doubt that social interactions are beneficial, but her conclusions are a little far fetched because these social interactions are by no means exclusive to Sardinia. Not even close. And then she's leaving out other important factors such as quality of their food and sleep and she's glossing over these people's numerous small walks in the streets which counts for a lot of exercise.

    It's broadly agreed upon that there are three pillars of health: Chemical environment (food, water, air, sun), movement/exercise and anything mental (stress, sleep, social).

    One of the main reasons why people are dying of cancer and of cardiovascular and various neurological diseases, is undoubtedly in the food supply as well with strong contributions from stress and poor sleep. On an island like Sardinia, as well as other remote places around the world, people have a vastly better diet as they often live off the land and our modern society hasn't completely reached them yet with its HFCS, GH, GM/GE, ABX, aspartame and pesticide-ridden foods. How can she not include food? Further, the people who live in these remote places naturally get exercise simply by them moving around the streets every day on a regular basis. Noone needs to go to the gym on a regular basis to get the benefits or exercise. Good ol' fashioned movement is all you need. And these people are getting it in spades. Lastly, no doubt these remote living people live a less stress free life with more overall rest and relaxation, and who undoubtedly work-to-live rather than live-to-work. And coupled with their higher degree of interacting with other people, no surprise these people are happier and less stressed. And as we know, stress is a killer… just like bad food… just like sitting in a chair behind a screen all day.

    In essence, she's not presenting anything new here at all, except she's repeating what's already known but doing it in an uneducated and naive way.

    …and somehow she also managed to "getting a flu shot" is more important than exercise and obesity in there. Further, the fact that she didn't comment at all on food quality kind of suggests that her research is funded by some big-pharma or big-chem company.

  30. it is funny, why TED allow a speaker who is using other researcher's study talk on TED stage?? what did Susan doing?

  31. I am 58 yrs old and an introvert by nature and don't like large circles of friends or groups of any kind. If I had to force myself to socialize in a situation that I wasn't really comfortable with, that would wreak havoc with me so I only do what makes me happy. I dictate what my social life will be. If you're introverted and don't have a large circle of friends, don't let this video freak you out. Volunteer work counts as socializing…church, etc.

  32. I really want to improve my English. but really hard to find the good enviroment to communicate with native speakers in my country. I just need about 5 minutes of your time to practise. Can you help me?

  33. Two people were talking, and one asked the other, "why don't you give up smoking, you'll be sure to live longer", the smoker replied, "no, it will only seem that way". This is an appropriate view to nearly all human relationships.

  34. I used to live in the world of Socials – Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, Vimeo, Klout, Tinder, Fart…okay, maybe Fart doesn't exist (yet!). Then after watching Westworld (S2) + Mr Robot (S3) back to back, I looked at myself and thought, "wow, you claim to not be a drone but checking your socials every minute, refresh flick refresh flick refresh..nothings changed" I realised I had to get out of that world and into the real world..the world beyond…beyond the cushty little place we call home. I was born late 80s but I remember the time (somehow?) in the early 60s when we all went shopping and waited for our items to be tallied up and put into bags. You'd wait in the queue and someone behind is purchasing the same item. You'd turn around and say, "wow, good find and now let's talk about this item for 5 minutes…oh look, how time flies…its my turn to pay for my shopping". Those were the good ol' days. Skip to 2018: Interior Shop, Day. Waiting in line. 2 people ahead, 2 people behind and what happens?

  35. The fact is, more people are living better right here than anyone else ever before in history. So don’t expect us to roll over and play dead when you say you’re dissatisfied. It’s not perfect, but it’s a great deal better than when we grew up: a hundred men standing in the street hoping for one job; selling apples on the street corner– that’s one of the things we were dissatisfied about; and you don’t see that much anymore. You’re taller, stronger, healthier, and you live longer than the last generation; and we don’t think that’s altogether bad. You’ve probably never seen a ‘Quarantine’ sign on a neighbor’s door. Diphtheria, scarlet fever, whooping cough–probably none of your classmates are crippled with polio. You don’t see many mastoid scars anymore.

  36. Socialization for older adults is crucial. Tips to help reduce isolation in seniors can be found here:

  37. that makes no sense, if you get social, you will get drugs, then you will die.
    check out all famous personalities, always drugs everywhere xD

  38. Hahahahaha flu vaccine. Get autism get aktzheimers… Get immunised against an out of date strain and take in mercury and aluminium, but live long. Classic subliminal propaganda.

  39. I wouldn’t worry too much about this, if I were you. I’ve found that relationships with others can be harmful if you seek them, just for their sake.

    Being alone has allowed me to determine the course of my life and find what I’m really passionate about. If you’re not fortunate enough to live around decent people, then you could go your whole life without good personal relationships. I’m much more calm and level headed than I’ve ever been, these last two or three years, because I’m not chasing some ridiculous ideal of success. One where you have loads of friends and make obscene amounts of money etc.

    I’m also going to add that I have been doing yoga practices and meditation, for a while, which is what shifted me into becoming so much more at ease and comfortable being alone.

  40. Interesting talk, and obviously the social component is turning out to be a big factor in longevity. But this study is just that, one study, and a fairly small one. And I fear that some folks are going to take away the wrong message here – eat whatever you want, live a sedentary life, and just be social more in order to live a long life. The folks in the blue zones do more than just socialize – they walk almost everywhere, they eat very few refined carbohydrates, etc. This talk tends to gloss over those other important factors.

  41. I kind of agree… first you need to build a healthy oneself first then the top two on the chart…. it plays a long part in your longevity because of not only the natural chemical lifters you produce when you meet someone socially in person… it also helps you motivate and build a long trusting relationship with your surroundings.. reducing your stress levels to a zilch and helps your brain function better…

  42. I would accept the conclusion that social interaction is a factor in longevity, but the study that is offered as evidence seems to be way off and at odds with all other studies I've seen on longevity. I mean flu shots ahead of exercise? This makes the talk far less credible.

  43. I believe the top one, having social relationship makes life easier, happier even if we are suffering from pains or sickness, interacting with others esp with our family, close friends help a lot.

  44. With deference to understanding how humans are, I cerebrate this finding is pretty paramount. The things that cause us to feel pain are things that are cognate to things gradually transmuting for the better over time apperceived as threats to our survival and the essence of gregarious pain is a denotement that change for the preponderant, over time has treated convivial connection like a desideratum, not an sumptuous thing/opulent and comfortable condition. It additionally transmutes our desire to do something/reason for doing something wide view of a nature scene/wide area of pulchritudinous land. We incline to surmise that people's deportment is narrowly self-intrigued, fixated on getting more material benefits for themselves and eschewing physical threats and the strenuous exertion of effort. But because of how convivial pain and pleasure are wired into our operating system, these are desire to do something/reason for doing something ends in and of themselves. We don't fixate on being connected only in order to extract mazuma and other utilizable things/valuable supplies from people – being connected needs no secret reason for doing something.

  45. كما جاء في حديث عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم

    "لا يزيد في العمر إلا البر"

    فالبر من أسباب طول العمر
    و البر لا يكون الا بوجود تخالط و اندماج مع المجتمع

    وفي حديثا أيضا قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم

    "من أحب أن يبسط له في رزقه وأن ينسأ له في أجله فليصل رحمه"

    و صلة الرحم تعني ان تتواصل و تتفاعل و تكون عونا و سندا و رفيقا و مشاركا دائما

    فما أروع هذا الدين الذي جاء علي لسان نبيه كل حق و صواب و خير و حكمة جمة
    دين الله الإسلام ❤🌼

  46. Con todos los respetos, esta charla mezcla cosas ciertas con asunciones falsas y esto es porque pasa por alto "qué" es una "variable dependiente" en un estudio psicosocial. Un sencillo ejemplo: se ha visto que las personas que tienen perro, viven más como media que las que no, pero esta variable (tener perro) es dependiente, es decir , quién tiene perro, lo hace por muchos motivos propios (No independientes o experimentales) y los cuales pueden ser las verdaderas variables causantes de su longevidad . Así, no es que las personas que tienen perro sean mas longevas gracias al perro, sino gracias a las variables que las llevaron a adoptar un perro (cosas como ser generosos, ser sensibles a los sentimientos, amar el dar paseos… , estar dispuesto a pasar incomodidades para cuidar un ser querido …. etc) . Por tanto, si alguien comprara un perro “para vivir más” seguramente sus posibilidades de vivir más … aumentarían poco pues le faltaría las variables causales previas. Así que Susan se deja un detalle clave: “si chocas los cinco con mucha gente al día… sirve, pero sirve si y solo si lo haces de corazon, porque …si lo haces para aumentar tu dopamina…. seguramente no te servirá para vivir mas años. Del mismo modo… si alguien tratara con mucha gente para tener personas “de apoyo” que de necesitarlo "le prestarían dinero" o que “le llevarían al hospital”, lo más probable es que esté haciendo un mal negocio… pues la gente no es tonta…y sabe distinguir un buen amigo de alguien que sencillamente … se hace el simpático. En resumen lo que necesitamos no es “tratar mucha gente para lograr personas que nos ayudarían a la hora de la verdad”, sino más bien “ser una persona que ayuda a los demás , pues esto es lo que hará que haya amor en tu vida, y por tanto que las personas que tratas… te quieran" y como las personas nos juntamos con seres sentimentalmente afines… lo mejor para tener “amigos buena persona”, es “ser una buena persona”. En fin, que la variable importante del estilo de vida para prolongarla es algo más que simplemente interactuar; es sencilla y simplemente buscar el bien de los demás, tenerlos en cuenta, respetarlos, y preferir que sean felices. ¿Es bueno tratarse? si, pero por amor de verdad, nada más… En fin que ¡Viva las buenas personas, y saludos a todos!

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